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Question: Why do children bite? 2. How do you deal with biting?

Babies and toddlers bite because they lack self-control and communication skills. Children at this age can not tell adults or other children when they have become sad, angry, or overwhelmed, so typically their first response is crying and then biting another person or themselves. Toddlers and babies have been known to bite even when they become overly excited about something. A baby beginning to cut teeth may also experience a biting phase. A preschool-aged child who is biting should be a sign of concern. By this age, a preschool-aged child should have a sense of emotional regulation and self-control.

Dealing with biting as a parent or teacher can be frustrating. Biting inappropriately affects children other than the child's biotin (Pg257). When handling a situation that involves biting, it is important to be firm, consistent, and calm. Redirection is a good way to get the attention off the situation. Prevention is key! Biting is contagious in younger children. Children do not understand that a friend bit and it was inappropriate. They see a child bite and then become curious about why they bit so then they try it as well. Keeping children engaged in activities throughout the day will help keep young children from biting. Biting can not only stem from teething, inability to talk, and emotions, but also from the border.

Resource: Positive Child Guidance, Eighth edition, Darla Ferris Miller

By establishing a routine for children, implementing basic rules starting at the toddler age, and providing a developmentally appropriate classroom, children will be equipped with the proper tools to become model citizens of society. Children who are socially and emotionally intelligent speak differently than those who are not taught how to process and cope in an appropriate manner. As stated in Positive Focus 11.12, emotionally intelligent people, "They use their feelings to help them make decisions, they don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge, or lecture others, and they validate other people's feelings." Children who are emotionally intelligent care for others, they know how to act, they know themselves. They show empathy towards others, overcome obstacles, and negotiate fairly to resolve conflict. Adults can teach these skills as easy as helping a child solve a conflict with a friend, or by helping a child talk about their emotions and different ways to cope. Adults need to be aware of how they respond to certain behaviors, some children may feel as if they need to misbehave to feel valued; as the nurturing adult we must remain calm and respond in an appropriate manner to resolve the issue and teach the child proper skills. By punishing children, we are making the situation worse, children shouldn't be put down or even be punished physically. Children are brand new to the world, how do they know what is right and what is not if we do not teach them, especially in a loving and nurturing way. "The expression of negative feelings that accompanies hitting, may be far more damaging to the child's development than the actual hitting (Chang et al., 2003; Larzelere et al., 2010; Larzelere and Kuhn, 2005)" (Miller, D., 2016, page 189). Children who are punished tend to be insecure, retaliate, and/or even have difficulties later in life like drug problems or issues keeping a job. We must remember that children love and admire most adults in their lives, therefore, we should always model to them how to be the best person we can be and to treat others the way we want to be treated.

Miller, D. F. Positive Child Guidance, 8th Edition, Cengage

It's very important that we treat everyone from different backgrounds, cultures and beliefs correctly. If we try to push our thoughts and opinions on them right off not only, do we hurt them but it says a lot about who we are. The goal is to be patient, understanding loving and helpful we can show them how to better themselves and even share why we do things the way we do here in a kind way that is loving not critical hurtful and, in a way, to offend them that isn't ever the goal. If you judge people, you have no time to love them (pg.119 Miller) This quote is very true and so convicting may we remember not to judge and be critical but to be helpful and understanding in that everyone is different. Learning about our students and their families can be very hard especially if they don't seem to open up and want to share about themselves, their culture and what makes them who they are. It takes stretching ourselves to show empathy and love we need to adjust our perspective to better understand those who have different ones. I think a great way to incorporate other cultures is to have parents come in and share something neat about their culture for the children this could be a meal, a holiday celebration or even having the classroom get a small lesson on how they dress and the meaning of what other people might wear. " Including multicultural toys, crafts and activities is also an important and helpful way for children to become educated." (pg.122 Miller). We can come up with so many neat creative ideas to include and get families involved and feeling wanted to be appreciated and seen in the classroom.

The efforts we make can help families feel welcome and comfortable when they are in a new setting. To teach children well we need to get to know them really know them and their families who they are what interests them the fears they may have, and even about the meals they make how they make them, and even their dislikes. We also have to understand something in their family culture that the world outside the school has such a huge effect on how well children do in school.

Miller F.D Positive Child Guidance 8th edition Cengage Learning

"To guide these children and their peers effectively, we need to learn how ability differences affect children and classrooms". Positive Child Guidance (8th edition) by Darla Ferris Miller page 133. Development in the first years of life is affected by a child's individual difference. Teens' emotional well-being is negatively impacted. Stress caused by comparison is a known contributor to mental health problems in children and adolescents and has even been linked to suicidal ideation in certain cases. Parents should raise their children without fostering individual differences. They should provide assistance for them in any circumstance. Children's mental health is boosted, and they become more engaged in their everyday lives as a result of this.

Acceptance and compassion are topics that I may discuss with children on several occasions. These discussions might be continuous, with the children returning to the topic at various points in their development. I will help children develop coping mechanisms for dealing with differences and offer them with chances to interact with others from diverse backgrounds. I will teach the children about diversity and inclusion. I would make it a classroom event to ensure that the parents are actively involved by planning a multicultural day where each child would be welcomed to bring in either a dish or an item from their country and or cultural background and have the moment to share it with the class. As a person providing care for children it will be my duty to never compare children, but to embrace the differences of each child as it sets them all apart in being unique individuals.

Throughout this chapter I have read the importance on helping a child and being able to recognize the type of help each child may or may not need based upon his or her emotional health. " We will need to learn how to recognize children who may need to be referred for professional screening to assure that their development is on track. We also must learn to recognize children who may have experience