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Questions:
1. Think about a situation that has occurred or is occurring in which you would like to develop a greater sense of forgiveness. Describe in writing who was involved, what you believe the other party's transgression towards you was, and how you reacted toward this transgression. Also, describe how you have dealt with this situation interpersonally (what you have or haven't said to the other party) as well as intra-personally (what you have been thinking about the situation inwardly). Include your positive intention towards this situation going forward and what you would like to experience.
2. h This may be a family, social group, work-group, blended family, or any other group you know well. Based on the principles discussed in chapter 7 of the text and in class, answer the following questions in writing about this group:
1. What seems to trigger conflicts in the group?
2. Does anyone have a label that people joke about?
3. Who is the most likely person to change in the group during a conflict (i.e., to not do things the same old way)? Do other group members tend to label that person and, if so, in what ways?
4. Are there any secret coalitions and/or alliances in the group
5. Are there any expectations that now seem odd or strange to you, which people more or less seem to follow?
6. What if there were no conflicts in this group (or system)? Would anything be lost to the group (e.g., benefits from the way people function together, solve problems, have productive meetings, a certain amount of drama that some people find meaningful, etc.)?
3. Observe how you use your emotions in a conversation this week, particularly where there's conflict or the potential for conflict. Notice what your positive intention is in these situations and whether the way you're using your emotions is helping you to achieve your positive intention (which could be related to your relationship and/or identity goals). If your use of your emotions isn't helping you to achieve your positive intention (and/or TRIP goals), what changes might you make in your thinking/beliefs that would better align your emotions with your positive intention? Summarize your observations in a short written paragraph.
Write another complete message and label the parts. Besides submitting the message on our site, bring it to our next class. You could choose a situation that might be useful to role-play if you wish, but it's not necessary. Those of you who didn't get a chance to role-play a conflict will have an opportunity to do so (with coaching) in our next class if you wish.