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How My Ex Prepared Me for Marriage to Chana Leah
Being with Jordyn prepared me for marriage to my wife Chana. Have you ever found someone so wonderful, you feel like this is the person for me, but in the end, the of both of you are only good for each other in that period of time in your life? In the time that we were together, we always had a long-distance relationship. During that time, communication wasn't my forte; she helped me break those walls. Through her own life experience, she understood the hesitation I had to let people in too close, and to be more open to those I meet. Our relationship let me develop an expectation of what an adult relationship looks like. Jordyn guided me to become a better man and in turn a good husband.
Our ritual was two hours in the morning and five hours at night. As time went on, it was becoming easier to let her in, but not completely, and it made her concerned that I was still reserved even from her. Once I started to peel away some of my guarded layers, I really saw that our conversations were developing; our relationship was flourishing and my sincere hope of being someone less hesitant to connect with anyone. We went back and forth to visit each other, going out on dates, long walks immersed in conversations that only became deeper and more fluent. We started to go out to lots of small events with friends, Jordyn introducing me all the while. They were eager to meet another chap. This gave me the opportunity to integrate and become less awkward over time.
One day while in Jerusalem, Jordyn broke down and told me a secret she hadn't told anyone except her mum. This shocked me; this was eating at her, and now she expressed this painful memory with me. So, I began to console her. After this, I had to let her in completely, and that's what led me to tell her about those family members, childhood friends and family friends that broke my trust. With this release of past ghosts, she helped me breathe again. Finally, I took it as my job to let go of this fake control and to trust people reasonably.
The expectations that relationships entail became real to me during this two-year period. I learned to deal with an adult relationship pretty quickly: the responsibilities of working, going to school, keeping up with family, friends, and making her feel loved. I appreciated her, no matter where she was, in the same city, different city or even in a different country. Giving one hundred percent from both parties always, it was a constant battle we fought while I was in Israel. Every time she left me, it was harder and harder for us, especially when she returned to the US, while I was in Israel for another nine months.
How is it that we have such amazing people like this in our lives, and don't end up with them? I loved this person so much, but still it only worked out for that period of my life. In all of that time I spent with her, she did have a huge positive effect on me. Being with Jordyn Miller truly was the key to preparing me for marriage to one of the most amazing woman I have ever had the privilege of being in my life, Chana Leah. Now I have learned to let go of my grudges with my family that I ousted from my life and let them ease back in. I easily console Chana, when needed, especially since she's become pregnant; talking about my pain, faults and what I want.
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