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Question 1.

A. List your top five items in order of importance, most important first.

Food and water would be my first. The second one would be my cell phone and charger. My third would be, copies of police reports. My fourth would be, child custody court documents & order of protection. Lastly would be Clothing and jackets. These are the most important essentials to take.

B. Explain why you came to this decision for each of these items.

I chose these items because you can't really survive long without food and water. Also, for proof bringing important documents such as police reports and custody are needed without them you have no proof. Clothing is extremely important, you need them to stay warm, etc. Lastly, phone and charger so you can keep in contact with people you need, etc.

Question 2.

A. Name the abuser from the video. What was his relationship to the victim?

The abuser was Vince. He was always drunk. He was extremely controlling. He always had to know where his wife was, always calling her at work, driving her places. He would never let her doas she pleased, always had to keep her in control and abuse her.

B. Provide two specific examples from the video of how he physically abused Amy.

One way Vince physically abused Amy was breaking her nose and her going to the hospital to get it taken care of and fixed. She would also go to work with black and blue marks on her arms and eyes. But always said it was a softball or boxes fell on her from the closet. But then admit later to new coworkers that he actually hit her arms with a bat and punched her in the eye.

C. Provide two specific examples from the video of his controlling behavior over Amy.

One way he was controlling was he would call her non-stop at her work. He would also drive her to work and home wouldn't let her drive. He wouldn't allow her to go anywhere, friends, etc. He always followed her wherever she went. Amy was literally wrapped around his finger.

Question 3.

A. For those in abusive relationships, why is it so important to safety plan ahead of time? Explain.

It is important because in situations such as Amy's she couldn't really run anywhere because he always found her. Telling family and friends is extremely important because they can help rather than you suffering all the time. Calling the police and telling them that this is what's happening to you. People out of fear don't reach out and that's a problem. They continue to turn a blind eye and live life full of abuse and fear.

B. What are some factors to consider when safety planning? Explain.

Keeping family and friends updated on how your life at home is. Having friends and family over often to monitor and see things that you may not notice. Get advice and help because others can tell if things are off while you are blinded. Maybe see if the person you're with has a bad track record and to continue and be with this person. Look for traces to see if something could be wrong with them, such as too much alcohol in the home, etc.

Question 4.

A. Is leaving an abuser as simple as finding the opportunity to leave? Why or why not? Explain.

Honestly, no. But in order to even do that you need to make the move to initiate it. Like above I said warn your parents to see if you can stay with them, and or friends. But leaving an abuser may be hard because there's always a blind eye turned towards this behavior. Also, it may be hard to find an opportunity to leave because they can find you and or harm you from leaving or finding out you did leave.

B. In Amy's case do you believe it was about finding the opportunity or the courage to leave, or something else? Explain.

In all honesty, I think she didn't have the courage to. But also, when and how. Her situation was pretty difficult. But I also think she had many times to but never took the chance. Such as when he was drunk, etc. She could have reached out to friends, family secretly to ask for help. Afterall, they were willing to help but she never took it.

Question 5.

A. Finally, in this week's lecture and in the Telling Amy's Story video documentary we learned that the most dangerous time for victims is when they actually leave the abuser. Why is this the case? Explain.

Yes, this is the case because the abuser doesn't want to lose that control over that particular person. Also, they tend to do things that put you in life or death situations. Such as Amy's. As well as they will pre-plan sounds like something that's not true but really does happen. They also, either threaten or kill the person before they leave them so word doesn't get out etc. Or the abuser won't take it and do whatever they can to keep them from leaving. Gaslighting, etc.

B. What happened when Amy actually decided to leave her abuser? Be specific.

She finally found the opportunity, but at the wrong time. She wasn't all prepared for it, (leaving) and just said it without thinking. This is because after she went to the house to gather stuff when she should've already had it prepared. Also, why does she think nothing was going to happen, she's been abused non stop, she could've brought her mom or dad in to help her out. So of course she should've waited a few days to go back and get stuff. She could have bought a small amount of baby care and used it and later on go and get the rest. She chose to go in right after the argument. Bad choice and not thinking straight. Also, the parents should've said something like no lets go to the store and get it later when he's gone.

C. What additional precautions might a victim consider when deciding to leave an abuser? Explain.

They might stay with family or friends or a few nights in a hotel. This is before coming and getting items they may need. Or they should bring someone to help them grab the stuff they need so they aren't alone with the abuser. They shouldn't do impulsive stuff such as going after an argument and getting their stuff then leaving after because it could result in a bad way. Life or death situation. They could even ask the cops for assistance and say I need to get stuff from the house but I don't feel safe because my husband, etc. will beat me or kill me. Etc.